My friend's father died tragically due to the negligence of others. I would rather not get into the details because although it has been reported nationally, I do not want to go into detail about something that is hurting a friend who I really like. My friend is one of those people who is stoic. It does not appear that anything bothers her and she is the person you would say comes from good stock or is of great character. She is smart and witty. I can only imagine the grief she is facing right now.
The funeral is on the other side of the state and originally, I planned on going with two other friends. And then last night, I reconsidered. Only two months ago I started this job, one that I love, and it does not seem to be the right time to go away for two days. I have a client on the verge of losing everything and tomorrow is a critical day for her. Certainly, it is not something I can put off on someone else. And because I am still in my "probationary period", I'm actually not entitled to take days off, although I think my boss would probably approve it.
I feel selfish for thinking of myself and a little choked up that I cannot be there for my friend. I racked my brain thinking what I could do for her instead of my presence. She will not be returning here for several weeks because she will be helping her mother settle down back home in the south. When she returns, although we will all gather around and be with her constantly, I imagine the sadness will only deepen. I wondered what could I do to help just a little.
And then I realized. I cook. I can do something I enjoy and I know might make things a little easier. The weekend before she returns, I plan on making at least a weeks worth of meals. I need to come up with a list of comfort foods that will nourish her body and spirit. And yes, I might even cook MEAT for her even though I am a vegetarian. I am that good of a person. Really, I am! If anyone out there can think of a good comfort food, I would be delighted to hear about it and if you have a recipe handy, please share.
My friend will be in my thoughts today and hopefully inspiration of warm foods will come to me.